Why try temperature play?
Temperature play is a wonderful way to introduce a new kind of sensation into your sex life and it’s not tricky to do. If you have toys already, this article will tell you new ways you can use them to make temperature play work for you. If not, allow me to point you in the right direction and share with you my favourite toys for adding chilling, tingling, and warming to the list of ways you experience orgasms.
Temperature play increases sexual arousal by activating the neuroreceptors under the skin. The stimulation temperature provokes, whether that’s warm or cold, creates a rush of sensation and in turn arousal to the body.
Whilst we might touch on the use of ice, this article hopes to steer away from the more typical forms of temperature play. Instead, we’re opting for prolonged pleasure that can be experiences again and again in all the right places. Whilst your mind me be prepared for this kind of touch, your body isn’t, resulting in pleasurable and unexpected shivers of pleasure.
Hot & Cold Toys
Glass toys are great for holding temperature. They are cold upon insertion and warm up gradually inside the body, the initial cold touch can be extremely pleasurable and tingly; great for waking up those nerve endings and getting them responding to touch.
The change in internal temperature can really heighten your awareness of areas that would normally go unnoticed, putting you more in touch with your body in a new and exciting way. When play is over and the toy is removed, you might be surprised to feel how the heat your body has transferred to the toy, almost a physical indication of the passion that has ensued.
If you’re concerned about glass as a sex toy material, let me reassure you that glass toys are 100% body safe and are shatter resistant. They feel velvety smooth against the skin, can be used in lots of different ways and can be paired with lots of different kinds of lube. Their high density makes cleaning and care extremely low maintenance.
Glass toys can be placed in the fridge/ under a cold tap or in a warm towel/ warm water before play in order to really reach different heights in temperature, please be safe when engaging in temperature play and only leave them in these places for a little while
The firm surface of a glass toy makes it great for applying pressure. Its super smooth, sleek, and strong and can be used to apply a rocking motion to hard-to-reach places such as the g- spot or prostate. They are also the most aesthetically pleasing toys if I do say so myself. I adore the sleek sophisticated almost displayable quality of glass toys.
Stimulating Glass Toys
One suggestion of a glass toy for you to try is a yoni egg. Yoni eggs are used to train the pelvic floor muscles and experience pleasure simultaneously. Perfect for massage and stimulation, they can be warmed or cooled and easily inserted. They come in a set of 2 different weights, giving you options for how hard you’d like your muscles to work to keep them inside you. They can be worn for a few hours at a time, making them great for play outside and inside the house.
Our decadently designed butt plugs, come complete with beautiful designs and flared bases. Not only can they make you feel like an absolute goddess, but any partner is sure to enjoy the amazing visuals of you wearing one. Offered in a variety of sizes, anyone looking to experiment with anal play is sure to find a style to suit them. To show the range in action I have picked two contrasting butt plugs to share with you, both in colour and shape. There truly is so much to choose from.
These elegant butt plugs are crafted with a fine attention to detail. Every toy from the icicle range is hand- blown, sleek and super smooth. When looked after correctly, these toys are said to last a lifetime.
Perhaps a glass wand is more your style: not to be bias but it’s definitely mine. Great on its own for internal stimulation or double the pleasure by adding a small silicone pebble vibrator to the clitoris. This duo stimulation and mixture of textures is guaranteed to have you forgetting your own name.
The Icicles No. 24 Glass Dildo offers a wonderful and unique design for those of us a little quirkier with our toy choices. The different ridges, bumps and textures ripple across the vaginal walls and can be manipulated to induce toe tingling, breath taking orgasms. It has been ergonomically designed so that the end of the tentacle doubles as a handle, allowing for comfortable, effortless fun. It’s also well suited to those looking for a toy less phallic in appearance.
The Glass Dildo with Blue Spiral Design is beautiful, simple, and inexpensive, making it great for beginners. The flared base means it is suitable for anal or vaginal play and it comes in a beautiful silk pouch for storage.
Stimulating Metal Toys
Another fab toy material that is a great conductor of temperature is metal, the above suggestions of play also apply to this kind of toy. The cold touch of a metal or glass toy can be incredibly satisfying but if this is not for you then we would suggest taking a little bit of time to warm up the toy between your thighs before play.
A couple of metal toys I would suggest are:
Silicone also holds heat nicely when warmed up and used for a little while but not as effectively as glass. Its pleasurable but not as noticeable.
Heating it up
Another exciting way of incorporating temperature into your sexual play is through the use of massage candles. It’s important that you get candles specifically designed for this or you will burn your skin.
Looking for the most boujee of massage candles? We recommend the Lelo Vanilla and Crème de Cacao Flickering Touch Massage Candle.
This candle melts into an exquisite pool of luxurious massage oil. It is non- greasy and absorbs into the skin for long lasting moisturisation. Its formulation of apricot kernel oil and shea butter is a wonderful mild fragrance and is available in vanilla and cacao or pear and cedarwood,
Using this form of temperature play is super simple. Burn the candle until you have a small pool of liquid, blow out the candle and leave for about 10 seconds to cool slightly. Then pour tentatively onto yourself or your partner for a sensual and intimate experience.
Tips & Tricks
Comfort and safety are the most important parts of any kind of sexual play. So as usual, I recommend lots of lube, warm up time and partner discussion/ setting of boundaries in order to have a fantastic sexual experience you’ll be thinking about for days.
The fab thing about lubricant is that spreads the vibrations and sensations you get from toys across a wider surface area: this in turn targets more nerve endings and increases your overall pleasure.
The cherry on top of the cake with temperature play? It can be paired with blindfolds and/ or bondage. This limitation of some senses such as sight and movement are great ways to heighten other senses. Without being able to see the pleasurable acts happening, your body is dependant on the feel of them in order to be fully immersed.
If playing with a partner, you can put them in control of the use of temperature during your play. The anticipation and excitement of not knowing quite when the warm and/ or cold sensation is going to graze your skin can be incredibly enjoyable.
For information on incorporating the use of cooling/ warming lubes into your sex life click here to check out our article- personalize your play pt1. Within this article the use of blood oils has been mentioned in relation to clitoral stimulation, but they can truly be used anywhere to increase your range of temperature and pleasure play.
The cleaning and maintenance of toys can be found at -good clean fun, where you’ll find tips on how to keep your toys looking as good as new and sparkling.
Good luck in your future endeavours into temperature play Minties! Let me know how you get on and drop an email if you think there’s anything I missed out. Always happy to hear from you.
I feel like there was a lot to cover here and I am not even done! If you’d like a separate article featuring toys that can be programmed to heat or cool, then you know what to do!