To enjoy the many benefits of the BDSM lifestyle, you’re going to need someone to enjoy them with, and we understand how difficult it can be to talk to your significant other about BDSM, but there are ways in which you can start the conversation that could lead to your significant other wanting to participate in BDSM with you

Best Ways to Discuss Bondage with Your Partner

If you’re struggling to break the BDSM ice with your significant other, here are four ways to discuss bondage with them that may help you achieve the results you want.

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- Don't Make Demands, Instead Make Suggestions

Try getting hold of some erotic fiction or some porn that depicts the type of bondage you want to try. Suggest to your partner that you read or watch it together. This helps plant the seed in your partner’s mind that this is something you may want to try and creates an opportunity to discuss it further.

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- Debunk Any BDSM Misconceptions

If your partner freezes up at the mere mention of the word ‘bondage’, they’re likely struggling with misconceptions! Bondage isn’t just whips and chains – there are PLENTY of beginner bondage restraints such as silk scarves that aren’t scary at all.

Try to dispel some of the most common misconceptions about bondage to show that it’s a very romantic way of improving and strengthening a relationship.

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- The "S" In BDSM Can Stand For "Simply"

Begin with simple, non-intimidating things at first and see how your partner responds. For example, using a silk necktie as a blindfold or restraint is far gentler than bringing out a leather hood and a pair of steel handcuffs!

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- Raise Your Hand to Volunteers First

Jumping in and trying something first is one of the BEST ways of initiating bondage with your partner. This simple psychological trick is often overlooked by partners (usually men) who want to be dominant.

They ask their partners whether they can tie them up and spank them and then wonder why they are rejected! A smarter approach is to simply say, “I want you to blindfold me tonight, why don’t you try spanking me?” Once you show your partner how excited and turned-on bondage makes you, they’ll be far less intimidated to try it for themselves!

Hopefully, these four suggestions will make discussing bondage with your partner far smoother. Please just try it and see!

Bring Out the Ropes & Restraints

You might think it’s just another form of restraint, but unlike handcuffs, rope bondage is so much more than restraining a naughty sub. It’s a demonstrative skill and an art form that only a few can masterfully achieve.

Rope bondage is a BDSM practice that lets the dominant tie up his/her submissive. This activity establishes the power dynamic between the dominant and the submissive, making it arousing for both parties.

The dominant derives pleasure from their partner’s full submission while the restrained sub gets turned on with the feeling of being one’s captive. If you’re ready to dip your toe into the rope bondage waters, then we highly recommend you visit Mintt today and browse through our selection of BDSM & bondage rope and restraint selections because we have EVERYTHING a kinky rookie, or veteran of the BDSM lifestyle, will need to satisfy ALL of their rope bondage and restraint desires.

Yes, you’ll indeed find the BEST shibari ropes found anywhere online at MINTT, but from leather harnesses to restraints, from cuffs to chokers, and from chest harnesses to bondage tape just to name a few items, Mintt has all of the bondage goodies any kinkster will need to fulfill ALL of their BDSM fantasies!

What if You Don't Have a Partner to Participate in Kinky Restraint Play

Well if you don’t have anyone willing to test out BDSM with don’t worry because many people play out bondage scenarios all by themselves in what is known as self-bondage!

Self-bondage requires just one person and is a great way for BDSM beginners to see if this kinky lifestyle is something they may be interested in.

Simply, self-bondage only requires one individual along with their preferred restraint system such as rope, handcuffs, chains, plastic wrap, straight jackets, sacks, latex, rubber, and even something as simple as tape to name a few.

Now, since you are alone, self-bondage is considered extremely dangerous, so make sure to start slow because the risks of self-bondage can include cutting off blood circulation if anything is too tight, suffocation or death by autoerotic asphyxiation, tissue and nerve damage, and even dehydration due to intense sweating. So if you are interested in testing out self-bondage make sure you are practicing, practice, and practice some more before you get too aggressive.

Self-Bondage Safety Guidelines

Proper planning, extensive research, and knowing everything there is to know about your restraints are just a few ways to make sure you stay safe during self-bondage.

One example of staying safe during self-bondage is to freeze your handcuff’s key in some ice…when the ice melts your key will be released and allow you to easily escape…but make sure to research everything you plan on doing ahead of time so that you don’t cause serious harm, or even die.

Other ways to stay safe during self-bondage include: never restrain your entire body, play in surroundings you already know, avoid anything that involves retraining your neck or head, never do drugs or drink alcohol because you need to be in your BEST mindset, and always know what your limits are!

2 Types of Self-Bondage: Strict vs. Sensual

Strict self-bondage is more risky than sensual because you rely on third-party mechanisms to allow you to be released from your restraints, and beginners should never start with strict self-bondage until they have mastered sensual self-bondage.

Sensual self-bondage allows you to escape from your restraints in as simple and quickly of a manner as possible…for example, if you handcuff yourself you will have the key within reach, or even use handcuffs that don’t require a key to allow yourself to be released.

Once again, all self-bondage rookies need to practice and master sensual self-bondage before testing out strict self-bondage!

Self-Bondage BDSM Gear & Devices for Rookies & Advanced Kinksters

As previously mentioned, if you’re new to the world of BDSM role play you’re going to need the correct gear and devices to help you start on your kinky journey, and Mintt is the place for anyone new to BDSM should get ALL of their self-bondage restraints and gear from!

Honestly, Mintt ONLY offers the very best selection of bondage gear and devices sold anywhere online, or offline, in the world today!

Also, if you’re a seasoned BDSM veteran please visit Mintt today and add something new to your self-bondage arsenal.

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